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As a wife who once felt overwhelmed by the sheer amount of relationship books out there and conflicting marriage advice, I know how exhausting it can be to navigate the maze looking for answers. That's why, if I was dangling off a cliff and only had time to give one piece of marriage advice before I fell, it would be this: read The Empowered Wife! In this book review, I'll share what it's all about so you can decide for yourself if this will be your next read.
Finding hope and transformation
Ever since I can remember, having a loving, happy marriage was a dream of mine—especially knowing I wanted to be a mom one day. So, right after getting married, I dove headfirst into all the relationship books I could find. I thought I’d uncover the secret to a perfect marriage, but instead, I ended up more confused than ever. My husband and I kept hitting the same walls, arguing about the same things, and I was desperate for a way out of the cycle.
We struggled with communication, and I wrestled with my own feelings of low self-esteem and unworthiness. It was exhausting, feeling stuck in a loop of frustration and hurt, not knowing how to break free.
Then I discovered The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle—a book that didn’t just promise change but delivered it in a practical, immediately useful way. It was a game-changer for me, so much so that I gifted a copy of the book to my sister on her wedding day and recommend it to all my friends and clients. This isn’t just another book; it’s a lifeline for any wife yearning for a deeper connection with her husband.
And I have to tell you—it’s the kind of book that could change your life too. It gave me the tools, the hope, and the courage to turn things around. I can’t wait to share more about it with you because I know, with all my heart, it can do the same for you.
The Empowered Wife book review: how the six intimacy skills can transform your marriage
Summary of The Empowered Wife book
The Empowered Wife introduces six transformative Intimacy Skills that guide wives toward creating the relationship they deeply desire without trying to control or change their husbands. This is massively important because the truth is, we have no control over anyone but ourselves anyways. So why not learn how to cultivate the kind of relationships we want by standing in our place of power and learning the Intimacy Skills.
These skills—Gratitude, Vulnerability, Relinquishing Control, Respect, Self-Care, and Receiving Graciously—are simple yet profoundly effective. They focus on changing your approach, fostering love and connection by starting with yourself.
Review: a quick guide to the six intimacy skills
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what our spouse isn’t doing—the missed gestures, the forgotten words, the unmet expectations. Over time, this focus can build resentment, making it hard to see the good that’s right in front of us. But here’s where the skill of gratitude works it's quiet magic. When we start noticing and appreciating the little things our husbands do, even the smallest effort, something shifts. Suddenly, the atmosphere changes. Gratitude draws out the best in our partners and creates a ripple effect of positivity and connection.
Then there’s vulnerability—a skill that feels risky but is deeply rewarding. We’ve all been there, holding back our true feelings, fearing they might be too much or push our husbands away. Yet, when we choose to share openly—without blame or criticism—we invite a deeper intimacy. Vulnerability isn’t about weakness; it’s about courageously letting your husband see your heart, and in doing so, you create a space where both of you can truly connect.
Relinquishing control can feel like the hardest step of all. It’s natural to want things done a certain way, to step in and guide every decision. But the truth is, letting go can be incredibly freeing. When we stop trying to manage every aspect of our husbands’ actions and instead focus on our own happiness, we restore balance. This act of trust often encourages our partners to step up in ways we never expected, creating a more harmonious and supportive partnership.
Respect is foundational, yet it’s often tested in the heat of the moment. It’s easy to react with frustration when things go awry, but choosing respect—even when it’s tough—can transform the entire dynamic. When we treat our husbands with dignity, even in disagreement, we set the tone for a relationship where mutual admiration flourishes. Respect isn’t about agreement; it’s about valuing the person, even when emotions run high.
Self-care might seem like a luxury, but it’s a necessity. We often pour everything into caring for others, leaving little for ourselves. However, when we make time for what brings us joy—whether it’s a hobby, a quiet moment, or simply rest—we recharge. This replenishment allows us to bring a vibrant, positive energy into our marriage, benefiting both ourselves and our husbands. It’s a reminder that caring for ourselves is, in fact, an act of love for everyone around us.
Finally, there’s receiving graciously. How often do we brush off a compliment or downplay an offer of help? Yet, when we allow ourselves to receive with grace—whether it’s a kind word, a gift, or support—we strengthen the bond with our husbands. It lets them feel appreciated and valued, fostering a relationship where both partners give and receive with open hearts.
Each of these skills may feel counterintuitive at first, but they hold the power to transform not only your marriage but also the way you connect with the world—and with yourself.
These skills may seem simple, but their impact is profound. They are tools that can be used in everyday moments to shift the dynamic in your marriage, allowing love, connection, and passion to flourish again.
Review of The Empowered Wife book: Strengths and potential challenges
The strength of the book The Empowered Wife lies in its practicality. These skills can be applied in everyday moments from parenting differences and finances, to physical intimacy and building teamwork, offering tangible ways to shift the dynamic in your marriage.
The Intimacy Skills are powerful because they shift our focus from what we can’t control—like our husband’s actions—to what we can control: ourselves. By practicing these skills, we foster mutual respect, appreciation, and connection in our relationships. At the same time, they help us cultivate self-respect, self-love, confidence, and a magnetic presence, transforming both our inner and outer worlds.
However, like any new habit, the challenge often lies in creating and maintaining these changes. This is where the book could feel overwhelming—without support or accountability, it can be difficult to stay consistent. That’s why having a coach and a supportive community can make a significant difference. I’m here to offer that guidance and encouragement, helping you apply these skills in a sustainable and truly transformative way.
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How The Empowered Wife changed my life
When I first read The Empowered Wife over a decade ago, I was in a place where I felt disconnected from my husband and uncertain about how to find my way back to the love we once shared. The book gave me a new perspective—a chance to approach my marriage with fresh eyes and an open heart. I started practicing the Intimacy Skills, little by little, and the changes I saw were astonishing.
But what truly transformed my life wasn’t just the impact on my marriage—it was who I became in the process. These skills taught me how to be the woman I always wanted to be: confident, intimate, vulnerable, grateful, and filled with genuine respect and admiration for my husband. They empowered me to create deeper, more meaningful connections, not just in my marriage but in every area of my life. I learned how to nurture beautiful relationships—with my friends, my children, and most importantly, with myself.
What I value most now is being able to model a healthy, loving marriage for my children. By living these skills, I’m not only strengthening my own relationship, but I’m also teaching my kids how to connect, communicate, and build healthy relationships of their own. They get to see firsthand what it means to love and be loved, to show respect and receive it in return, and to create a home filled with understanding and warmth. For me, that’s the greatest gift of all.
Why I recommend The Empowered wife to all of my friends and clients
I recommend The Empowered Wife because I know how deeply painful it can be to feel like you’re fighting for your marriage alone. I understand the ache of longing for a connection that feels just out of reach, the loneliness that comes from wanting more love, more warmth, more understanding. But I also believe, with all my heart, that real change is possible. It starts with these simple, yet profound, skills. This book offers genuine hope—not through empty promises, but through practical, life-changing principles that you can start applying today.
As a wife, mother, and woman, I hold a deep belief that a better world begins in the home. By nurturing love and trust within our marriages, we teach the next generation what it means to have healthy, strong relationships.
For me, sharing this The Empowered Wife and the book review with as many women as I can isn’t just about helping individual marriages thrive—it’s about creating a ripple effect. When we strengthen our marriages, we create homes filled with love and understanding. We show our children what it looks like to feel cherished, to be part of a team, and to navigate life’s ups and downs together. The love we cultivate in our marriages isn’t just for us—it’s a gift to our families and to the future.
The beauty of The Empowered Wife lies in its ability to offer practical, life-changing tools that work in even the toughest situations. No matter where you are in your marriage, the Intimacy Skills outlined in the book can guide you toward the love, warmth, and joy you’ve been longing for. These principles have transformed countless relationships, and they can do the same for you.
How I use these principles to help wives create the marriage they desire
For over a decade, I’ve used the principles from The Empowered Wife to cultivate peace, connection, and passion in my relationship. These skills have been my anchor, helping me navigate challenges and build a strong, loving marriage. Today, as a relationship coach certified in these very skills, I've had the privilege of guiding wives through the same transformation I experienced in my own marriage.
Becoming a certified expert in the Intimacy Skills was a journey of immense personal growth. I’ve dedicated myself to mastering these principles, not just through my own experience and intensive training, but through continual weekly training to deepen my understanding and effectiveness.
Over the years, I’ve seen incredible transformations—not only in my own life but in the lives of the women I work with. I’ve worked with wives who felt completely disconnected from their husbands, wondering if the love they once shared could ever be rekindled. I’ve helped women who were drowning in resentment and frustration shift their focus to gratitude and see their husbands in a new light.
Others, who struggled with constant conflict or feeling unappreciated, found peace and partnership by relinquishing control and embracing vulnerability. Even in marriages where trust had been deeply broken, the skills taught in The Empowered Wife have helped women rebuild connection and create a new, stronger foundation.
The Intimacy Skills I teach aren’t just theories—they are lived experiences, deeply personal to me. They’ve given me the tools to turn difficult moments into opportunities for deeper connection. I’ve seen the same transformation in the lives of many wives I’ve had the honor of coaching. We work together to rediscover what makes their marriage unique and to rekindle the love that first brought them together.
Whether it's learning to be vulnerable and sharing your true desires, or letting go of old habits that no longer serve you, the journey can be life-changing. And I am here to walk alongside you, offering support, encouragement, and the tools that have helped me and countless others.
A new beginning starts here
If you’re reading this book review and feeling that familiar ache in your heart, I want you to know that hope is not lost. The Empowered Wife and the Intimacy Skills it offers can be the beginning of a new chapter in your marriage. And you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here, ready to support you as you rediscover the connection and passion that you’ve been longing for.
So, grab a copy of The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle, take a deep breath, and know that change is possible. I believe in you, and I believe in the power of these principles to bring peace and joy back into your marriage. It’s time to take that first step toward the marriage you desire and deserve.
To start your journey with the Six Intimacy Skills, download my FREE guide: 5 Steps To Reignite Connection In Your Marriage
Looking for support to help you effectively apply the Intimacy Skills and see real change in your marriage? Book a complimentary Relationship Assessment Call to explore how private coaching can help you create the connection and closeness you desire.
Xo,
Laura Amador
PS. Have you read The Empowered Wife yet? If so, share your thoughts in the comments below!
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